Browsing through the Mommie Daze website, I stumbled across a new line called Mixology that I must must must try. This will hopefully be my next week’s purchase and YouTube video review. They have a nice assortment and I love the way they are branding. Great products and get this, they are donating $1 from each order to sponsor clean well water for villages in Africa. Noble concept. Gotta love it! Check them out when you can.
Now, I have about 16 more entries saved on this laptop and 20 vids from YouTube to bring over here in the next 24 hours, so I’m off to work. Stay Purdy!
Sending a smile…
YouTube has become a haven for me and this makeup passion of mine. Throughout YouTube, there are so many communities varied by interests. If you cook, there are circles of people that share that interest and vlog and do tutorials about it. If you like comedy, there is a circle. If you are a militant racist, yes, there is a place for you too. But for me, there is a place, a circle of friends that just love makeup and I have found a home with them.
They vary from people just trying out makeup to gurus that are actually make up artists and plenty in between. They share their purchases, called “hauls” and will also show you detailed views of how they do each look in tutorials. It’s a great place to learn!
I thought I knew enough about makeup because I can do an application and look great, but there is so much more out there. I’ve learned about different products, product lines, how to use certain products, and I’ve learned proper application as well as learning that in makeup, there are no rules. The object of this game is to have fun and feel beautiful. It’s a win win.
Now, I was a tad put off by some of the videos that seemed to be all about one particular product, but in trying and testing different products, I figured out why people rave about it. MAC, the line in question, has this stuff down to a science. They have a hard core group of followers that rival any trekkie convention and there is a reason for that. They have a great product.
Everyone can’t afford MAC prices, so there is also a great many that use drug store brand makeup to beautify and come up with amazing results.
We share beauty tips, insider secrets, notify each other of sales and review products. All for the benefit of each other. People that do videos come in different colors and shapes and none of that seems to matter to any of the viewers/subscribers. It’s really like looking through a Real Life Vogue magazine with pictures of women you can relate to and looks that you can really emulate because let’s face it, we can’t all be Naomi or Heidi and get airbrushing each morning when we apply out makeup.
I’ve given the group a nickname, the MakeUp Mafia, complete with a few heads of the Families. It’s funny, but there are gurus out there and their subscribers are loyal and faithful. I would venture to say when one of them recommends a product, stores all over the nation sell out of that item within a week. That’s the power of YouTube.
At first, I was afraid to put my own image out there. You’re really opening yourself up to criticism and sometimes, it’s not pretty,but for the most part, all of the people in that community are just your average ordinary women that share a particular interest in beauty.
As a feminist, I fought the idea of makeup as a neccessary tool for beauty, but the more I play with it, the more I see it as enhancement, not coverup. No one is hiding behind blush. No one is trying to be someone else with a lip color. People are just themselves, open, honest and caring and sharing. It’s really a great place to be if you love makeup.
Sending a smile…
Add a comment July 21, 2008
Well, June flew by and July was just a cha-ching month. I kid you not. Since July first, my debit card has seen more action than I saw in 14 years of marriage which truly isn’t saying much. Just the same, I enjoyed every minute of it.
Beauty is a passion of mine. I can find beauty in dust and dirt. I can see art in a glass of flat pop. When I see color, my mood brightens, my spirit lifts and I appreciate the gift and blessing of sight as if I lived a life with blindness and an 88 eyeshadow color palette was my first glimpse after a life altering lasik surgery. This is why I’m so taken now with makeup.
I don’t actually do a “look” daily because I don’t leave the house all that often, but I do believe that one should dress for themselves and that in itself does something to elevate ones outlook. I remember long ago reading about a Fly Lady ritual whereby the first thing a person should do each day is put your shoes on. Even if you aren’t leaving the house, it sets the tone for the remainder of the day. I completely agree with that. I take it a step further and wear cute lingerie just for me so I feel femme, exude confidence and personify sexy. I recall a paramour once mentioning my unmentionables as if I wore them for him and I said, “Oh no, Love, I wear cute undies for me and me only.” If they entice or excite, great, but that’s not the goal. It’s kind of like having a secret weapon of confidence. It’s Maya Angelou’s “Phenomenal Woman” poem as a mantra. My own private upper.
Cosmetics has been that for me lately. Well, always really, but I was stuck in neutral colors for a long time and it took some introspection to determine the cause. When I met the man I would marry, one of the first things he said to me was, “I don’t like red lipstick on women,” and you know what, I stopped wearing it. I got the guy, but lost myself. A 23 year old woman that couldn’t wear her favorite lip color, all for what she believed was love. Hindsight, as they say.
Now, I wear lots of nudes and yes, reds, and corals and it’s by choice. I’m reclaiming my identity and enjoying using my face as my canvas to display my mood, my ambition, my wild streak, my soft side and everything that is the staunch feminist in me.
Stay tuned. I have about 5 or 6 posts to update this week and if I have the energy, I will do most of them today.
Sending a smile…
Add a comment July 21, 2008
When I send people emails, I usually sign off with the phrase, “Sending a smile.” Until recently, no one has ever asked me why. I thought it rather self explanatory, but just the same, I will explain.
Way back when, I was a receptionist for the business office of a large franchised Copy Center. Oooh can you guess which one? Most of the calls that I received were from disgruntled customers and I had to forward them on to my disgruntled co-workers who would then stop by my desk on their way to nowhere in a huff and attempt to share the disgruntled vibe. Well, I don’t do “dis” anything. Not dis-ease,dis-comfort, dis-gruntled, dis-gust or even just plain diss. It’s just not my nature. I’m a pretty happy person, even when I’m not. (<– It will hit ya on Wednesday if you didn’t get it today, as a special friend used to say to me)
In an effort to stave off the vibe and keep it from cycling it’s way back to me, I decided to smile as my co-workers approached. It’s hard to be angry when someone is smiling at you( besides, they probably thought that the idea that anyone would smile in such a integral, yet underpaid and under appreciated position was really just step one on my way to going postal). It’s really hard to intentionally dump your crap on them if they look all Pollyanna chipper. The smiling worked so well with them that I decided to see if it would translate over the phone when a person couldn’t even see me. Turns out, people can hear a smile. They can detect that smiley tone and it diffuses their angst, even if a little bit.
As the years progressed, email became my primary mode of communicating for a variety of reasons and I discovered that tone is very difficult for some people to perceive in the written word, especially in email form. I’ve seen people storm out of meetings over the way an email was written. Watched as friendships dissolved because of “the way someone said something” in an email. Interesting notion, isn’t it? The same sentence written the same way can be perceived quite differently depending on the reader and what baggage they bring to the read. Sometimes, the intent gets lost all because of the little effort in paying attention to tone and the perception of the person reading. For such a simple thing, it causes a great many problems.
For this reason, I try to email the same way I answer my door, my telephone or any other communication and I do it with a smile. Try cussing someone out via email with a smile on your face. It’s nearly impossible unless you’re just a really snarky individual. So in an effort to diffuse ‘tudes and level out and balance moods, I send every email out with a smile. Sometimes just reading the word can make a person smile and smiles, like sneezing, nose checking ( love that one) and laughter are contagious. Couldn’t we all use a little light in our day? Wouldn’t the world be a better place with a smile on every face? How on earth would people proceed with wars if their enemies were throwing genuine smiles instead of grenades their way? Ok, maybe that’s a stretch, but it’s worth a try. *Eternal Idealistic Optimist that I am* With that, I send you a smile. Share it with someone just for the hell of it and see if it doesn’t benefit the people on both ends of that note.
Sending a smile…
Today, give a stranger one of your smiles. It might be the only sunshine he sees all day. ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks. ~Charles Gordy
A smile is the light in the window of your face that tells people you’re at home. ~Author Unknown
Always remember to be happy because you never know who’s falling in love with your smile. ~Author Unknown ( My favorite)
If you don’t have a smile, I’ll give you one of mine. ~Author Unknown
I’ve never seen a smiling face that was not beautiful. ~Author Unknown
Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles. ~George Eliot
The shortest distance between two people is a smile. ~Author Unknown
Peace begins with a smile. ~Mother Teresa
If you don’t start out the day with a smile, it’s not too late to start practicing for tomorrow. ~Author Unknown
Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing. ~Mother Teresa
Most smiles are started by another smile. ~Author Unknown
A smile is something you can’t give away; it always comes back to you. ~Author Unknown
A smile costs nothing but gives much. It enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor that he cannot be made rich by it. Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give. ~Author Unknown
Add a comment June 23, 2008
Technology is not new to me. I worked as an IT professional for a Fortune 100 company, I’m a certified web designer and I’ve been active online sincce ’95…so why did it take me two hours to upload a video to YouTube? I’m going to use the easiest excuse and blame Fibrofog because even 12 year olds are on YouTube doing this. It just shouldn’t have been that hard.
All that said, yay, I did my first video. Now, of course, I’m hooked. I’ve done about 5 hauls in the past tw weeks and really need to document those and do some swatches so I can at least pretend I’m branching into color cosmetics, though I know deep down I’m gonna stay true to bronze and any shade of taupe. It’s the thought that counts….or at least that’s the B.S. we tell ourselves.
I’m trying really hard not to go all in and make vids on some of the topics that are on my mind right now because I don’t want to alienate anyone…but gas prices, the election, divorce, weight gain and loss, dating scrubs,….I have a lot on my mind. LOL! I might just say something Feela-esque and well..fall out. I guess the bottom line is that I would prefer people not like me for the things I believe in than to like me and never know the real me. There are a few great quotes by other people to that effect, but it’s “Me: Take Two” damnit!
I think I’ve earned a Mimosa. Since I don’t have the supplies, either a water with ice or a simple screw driver will have to do. At any rate, success. Trepidation conqured.
Sending a smile…
Add a comment June 23, 2008
Also too long for YouTube:
Tropic of Cancer by Henry Miller, I know why the caged bird sings by Maya Angelou (the answer…because it can: See ‘Freedom’), The Diaries of Anais Nin, The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison The Shopaholics series by Sophie Kinsella Naked Lunch by William Burroughs To Kill a Mockingbird by (Nelle)Harper Lee A Secret Word by Jennifer Paddock Running with Scissors by Augusten Burroughs My Own Memoir by XXXXX XXXXXXXX( So not my real name) Latest reads–The Audacity of Hope by Barrack Obama, Eat, Love, Pray by Elizabeth Gilbert, A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius by Dave Eggers,Sex, Drugs and Cocoa Puffs by Chuck Klosterman.
Add a comment June 16, 2008
This list was too long on YouTube so here we go:
Imitation of Life, Caberet, New York! New York!, All That Jazz, Chicago ( I love Fosse!!!) The Color Purple, Grease (Don’t ask, product of my generation), The LakeHouse,Lackawanna Blues. The Red Balloon ( I think I was 5 when I fell in love with that movie. I cry everytime and there are no words in the entire thing), Last Tango in Paris( Recreational use of butter amongst strangers intrigues me. No Names! No Names! God love Brando!), Wag the dog, Ghandi, Best in Show, Chocolat, Malcom X ( Oscar Robbed ), Gone with the Wind, The Usual Suspects, Soul Food, Silence of the Lambs, Up in Smoke, Friday, The Great Debaters, Dr. Zhivago, Love Story ( except that in truth, love is really having to say I’m sorry over and over and over and over again), The Outlaw Josey Wales, Daughters of the Dust, 200 Motels ( Frank Zappa was a genius!), School Daze, Walking Tall, Blade, Amadeus, Fame, The Matrix, Blood In Blood Out, On the Town, Singing in the Rain, Holiday Inn,The Killing Fields, Bar Fly (It’s not that I don’t like the police, I just like it better when they aren’t around.) Pulp Fiction( Royale w/cheese), 9 ½ Weeks ( That explains a lot in hindsight), The Secretary ( That explains a lot TODAY), Two can play that game, Memoirs of a Geisha, Some like it hot, In the Heat of the night, Halloween, Breakfast at Tiffany’s, Eve’s Bayou, The Learning Tree, Under the Tuscan Sun, Whatever happened to Baby Jane, I know why the caged bird sings, One flew over the cuckoo’s nest, Resorviour Dogs, Funny Girl, Sparkle, The Warriors, The Wiz, Clueless, Empire Records, Fast Times at Ridgemont High, Shindler’s list, The Sound of Music, West Side Story.
Add a comment June 16, 2008
Before anyone asks, I figure it’s a good thing to just come out with it. My screen name is a double entendre. It can mean whatever you wish. Feel a bustier, sure, but that’s not my style. I’m a flirt….not a skank. The name comes from my interest in politics and the word Filibuster. A Filibuster is a block used to prevent a bill from passing or for it to get stuck in permanent limbo. In AAVE ( African American Venacular English), we use another word to preface “Blocker” and that was my purpose.
I’m a very idealistic person. Very! I find beauty everywhere. I believe everyone has redeeming qualities and although I admit to being human and having my own prejudices, I try very hard to work at minimizing them with the hope that some day they wil dissappear.
What that means is that I block hate, I block racism, I block sexism, I block homophobia, I block this ridiculous notion that every woman should be a size 2 to be relevant in society. I block and I try to do it in a peaceful and respectful way. You’ll have to ask those around me if I am successful.
So there you have it….my nick name isn’t perversion, it’s just a deeper shade of thought.
Welcome to my new blog. I’m not new to blogging as this would be number 9 or 10, but this is the most recent and purposeful. I decided to create a new place to discuss my latest passion…well, my latest testeroterone free passion; ME!
I’m a divorced mother of two and after 13 years, I kinda let myself go. My dreams, my likes and dislikes, the ME that I used to be. As I branch into this new phase of my life, I’m re-discovering the things that defined me and that made me happy. I’m rebuilding my body as well as my spirit and there may be some journey to love or at least polite dating thrown in for good measure.
Lately, I’ve taken a liking to YouTube and not just those silly cat videos or the Numa Numa guy, but self improvement videos. You would be amazed with the community that has developed over these modems. As a self declared feminist, I’m all about things that empower women and for me, that has been videos about health care, sexual wellness and beauty. I’m nearly obsessed.
After watching a few vids from CandieCC and BarstowMama, I decided to plunge in and venture into my own journey with beauty and self confidence. I have always loved make up and elegant plumage, but now, I’m taking it to the next level. Now, I’m shifting into high gear.
Last week, I did my first “Hauls”, whereby one shops until they drops, bargain hunts and locates the latest and greatest cosmetics. Avon first, Ebay next, a few orders from Sephora and now, whatever I run across. It’s actually like a scavenger hunt. I even wandered into a dollar store for the first time since I was a near homeless college student with a specific list of purchases on my mind. It did not dissappoint.
I plan to update this page regularly with videos and pictures of my journey. I hope you will enjoy the ride with me.